Attorney Steven D. Miller
Mass Custody Lawyer
Children must adjust to Divorce in Massachusetts – You can help!
Look, if your kids are old enough, they have plenty of friends whose parents are divorced; they know what goes on. Make this difficult time for them as uneventful as possible. Personal experience tells us that young children (under 10) will be fine as will older children (17+). It’s the 10-17 year old that needs lots of attention.
Watch your kids closely. Try to keep their routine the same. Talk to them, often. Make sure they are doing their school work. Your marital settlement agreement, or order of the court if you don’t reach agreement, will make provisions for each parent to be involved in the child’s health, education and welfare. Children are this country’s most important asset! Do everything on your power to keep them happy and safe.
Child Custody Lawyer Serving Hampden, Hampshire, Cambridge, Essex County, Bristol & Worcester County
Legal Custody in a Massachusetts Divorce
“Best Interests of the Child(ren).” That is basically all you need to know about how you should deal with all child related issues including, but not limited to, custody and visitation issues. If you don’t the Massachusetts divorce judge assigned to your case will. Unless there is some compelling reason why one parent shouldn’t be involved in these decisions, you will have joint legal custody. A Mass. custody lawyer can help.
Physical custody in a Massachusetts Divorce
Where is your child going to live? Joint physical custody – parents share parenting time on an approximately equal basis or Primary physical custody – one parent most of the time and a limited parenting schedule for the other. Do what’s best for your children. They need both parents in their lives. Unless there is a compelling reason not to agree and let a Massachusetts divorce judge make the decision, reach an agreement with your spouse. You’ll be glad you did. Steven D. Miller, Mass. custody lawyer can help.
College Costs in a Massachusetts Divorce
Massachusetts divorce judges realize that children need to and will attend college. Each judge deals with college expenses as they see fit and will consider the financial situations of both parents and perhaps the child as well. When discussing settlement options with your spouse, make sure to consider the total cost of the college experience and the contribution that each parent, and the child, can make. You really don’t want or need a Massachusetts divorce judge telling you what to do.
Parenting Class for Divorcing Parents
Under Standing Order 99-1 of the Massachusetts Probate & Family Court, you are required to attend a parenting class if you have minor children and are filing a Massachusetts divorce case. The certificates of completion must be filed before the final hearing or trial. Click here for a list of the parent classes in your area. Online classes ARE NOT accepted.
Relocation of Minor Children in a Massachusetts Divorce
Want to move out of state? Not so fast. You must get permission from your spouse (in writing) or the Massachusetts divorce judge. The parent who wants to relocate must present evidence to the judge that out of state relocation is a “real advantage” to the child. Assuming you can, you must then explain to the judge how you, as the parent, will continue to foster the other parents relationship with the child(ren) and how, after relocating, the other parent will be able to maintain a similar visitation schedule. Most Massachusetts divorce judges will tell you that relocation of a minor child is really one of the only issues, which may require a hearing. If the non-relocating parent has a good relationship with their child(ren), relocation is difficult. Not impossible, just difficult.